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Seasons of life : why tilting is better than balance

When I wrote this article about seasons of life two weeks ago, I did not know that it would be so on point. You see, I was supposed to post this article last Tuesday, but life got in the way as I have been moving offices and I have not been able to post at all last week.  That is exactly what I was trying to demonstrate when I wrote this post, that different seasons of life demands our attention and devotion and how I make the most of it.

In the last few weeks, I’ve been very preoccupied. The office where I work is moving and I’ve been in charge of coordinating the move. It would have been a fairly simple task, but the move has been postponed three times and I had to coordinate the whole thing from scratch each time. I was worried that I would forget something and I would spend the nights restless, going through each step in my mind again and again. Insomnia is not your best friend when you need to concentrate, to say the least. During the process, my personal development has fallen to the wayside. The other day, I was contemplating the reasons why I do not feel like working my personal issues lately. And I came to the conclusion that my current season of life is moving offices. And there is nothing wrong with that.

I’ve heard Michael Hyatt talk about seasons of life many times on his podcast. His theory is that our life is divided into seasons where our focus is shifted in a direction or in another. At the moment, my focus is on the move and all my energies are directed towards the success of that venture. In August and September, my season of life was launching this blog. You can plan your seasons like I did with the launch, but sometimes seasons impose themselves like the one I am going through right now.

A long time ago, I’ve read an article written by Brooke McAlary over at Slow your Home, a lovely blog and podcast about simple living, and it just clicked. Brooke wrote about the concept of life balance. She shares how difficult it is to achieve and that it may not serve us so well. She suggests tilting our focus instead of striving for perfect balance.

“Some days:

  • Your kids are happy to play independently – tilt towards catching up on tasks around the house.
  • Your kids are sick, or needy, or plain grumpy, meaning you can’t get anything done except the very basics. Tilt towards supporting the kids and being extra mindful of what’s going on for them.
  • Your partner is under added pressure at work. Tilt towards lessening the load on them at home.
  • You need to recharge. Tilt towards being kind to yourself and letting go of the things that don’t help with that.
  • You need to regain order at home. Tilt away from social engagements and towards time at home.
  • You have a busy time at work. Tilt towards simple meals, light home duties and simple rhythms.

See what I mean?” – Brooke McAlary, author of the Slow your Home blog

I believe that the act of tilting is allowing us to allocate our time and energy to what is truly important in the moment, exactly when it is needed, instead of chasing the perfection of balance in every area of our lives. When all my brain power is needed to ensure that the office move is seamless, trying to work on my personal issues would be a waste of resources. I should give all that I’ve got to the move and resume my personal development endeavours when it is all over. In a way, allowing myself to tilt is very freeing. It is liberating.

I always wonder what the next season of my life will be. What’s coming next? It is exciting to discover what’s around the corner!

Do you tend to aim for balance in your life, or do you allow yourself to tilt between your priorities?

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2 comments

    1. Thanks Etienne for your kind comment! I’m glad it had impacted you in a way!