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Nonviolent communication : problem-solver and happiness booster

When my friends and loved ones feel sad or worried, I tend to feel very powerless. I just don’t know how to react! I would like to show support but only seem to spurt out unwanted advice. I know that’s not what they need, but I don’t know how to offer the empathetic ear they are longing for. While doing research, I recently stumbled upon a technique that teaches us how to listen to our friends’ needs and truly show them that we care. It is called nonviolent communication. I must say that I am not in love with the term. Coined by psychologist and author Marshall B. Rosenberg, nonviolent communication refers to a way of communicating that will cause no harm to its recipient. I did not believe that giving unwanted advice was “violent” in any way, but it can surely harm a relationship if the person manifesting sadness is only wishing for closure and connection. So what is this communication technique that does no harm? Nonviolent communication is a technique that can be applied towards others or ourselves. […]

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Stop comparing your Bullet journal!

3 Leuchtturm notebooks

In the many Bullet journal Facebook groups I am a part of, I hear people complain about comparing their bujo to the highly creative and ornemented ones you see on Instagram. They say that they can’t draw, that their handwriting is awful, but they still want to take part in the hobby. I hear you. Today, I’d like to give you permission to do what works for you. You don’t have to keep up with the Joneses! Keep it simple I wrote about my recent journaling slump lately. Since I’ve fallen into a rut, to keep up with the habit, I’ve decided to simplify my spreads. What I see around are intricate, highly decorated spreads, lots of drawings, washi, stamps, and more! If you have fun creating these intricate spreads, do not hold off! But if you feel like this is too complicated, too much work, or just not your style, you can do very simple spreads, in black and white or with a simple splash of color, and leave the decorating aside. Lately, my designs have been really straightforward. […]

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How to stick to your good habits in times of change

Recently, I wrote about my existential crisis and my decision to get a day job. I started my new position at the beginning of April, a month ago. No need to tell you that switching from working from home to go work in an office an hour away from home makes a big change in my daily routine! And this change has impacted my habits in many ways. In today’s post, I want to share my tips to stick to your good habits in the midst of change. Let dive in! Protecting sleep and recovery I am now working full time, which means I’m working more than I had in the past 10 years or so. I’m waking up earlier because my commute takes an hour each way. Waking up earlier means going to bed early. I used to need to sleep 7 hours a night to get a good night’s sleep, but since I’ve started working, I find myself sleeping 9 hours on average as my Fitbit reports keep telling me. I guess that my body is adapting to […]

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Hygge : Happiness is a Danish word

Hygge : happiness is a Danish word

As far as I can remember, happiness has always been a source of wonder for me. Last year, a new concept came to the awareness of the general public, the Danish principles of happiness called Hygge. I am a bit late to the party, but I have been thoroughly seduced by this concept and today I’d like to share with you the basic principles of this art de vivre. Hygge has no direct translation Hygge, pronounced hoo-gah, is a complex concept coming from Denmark. Hard to describe in a few words, it doesn’t have a direct translation in any other language. It describes a feeling of well-being that you can experience in a variety of situations. A few elements can contribute to this well-being and I will try to help describe the concept by sharing these elements. The Basics of Hygge 1. Soft Lighting The Danes are the largest consumers of candles in Europe. They would say that the soft glow of a lighted candle can bring Hygge to any situation. For a hyggleligt ambiance, choose diffused lights similar to the dawn […]

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