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Nonviolent communication : problem-solver and happiness booster

When my friends and loved ones feel sad or worried, I tend to feel very powerless. I just don’t know how to react! I would like to show support but only seem to spurt out unwanted advice. I know that’s not what they need, but I don’t know how to offer the empathetic ear they are longing for. While doing research, I recently stumbled upon a technique that teaches us how to listen to our friends’ needs and truly show them that we care. It is called nonviolent communication. I must say that I am not in love with the term. Coined by psychologist and author Marshall B. Rosenberg, nonviolent communication refers to a way of communicating that will cause no harm to its recipient. I did not believe that giving unwanted advice was “violent” in any way, but it can surely harm a relationship if the person manifesting sadness is only wishing for closure and connection. So what is this communication technique that does no harm? Nonviolent communication is a technique that can be applied towards others or ourselves. […]

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How to stick to your good habits in times of change

Recently, I wrote about my existential crisis and my decision to get a day job. I started my new position at the beginning of April, a month ago. No need to tell you that switching from working from home to go work in an office an hour away from home makes a big change in my daily routine! And this change has impacted my habits in many ways. In today’s post, I want to share my tips to stick to your good habits in the midst of change. Let dive in! Protecting sleep and recovery I am now working full time, which means I’m working more than I had in the past 10 years or so. I’m waking up earlier because my commute takes an hour each way. Waking up earlier means going to bed early. I used to need to sleep 7 hours a night to get a good night’s sleep, but since I’ve started working, I find myself sleeping 9 hours on average as my Fitbit reports keep telling me. I guess that my body is adapting to […]

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Hygge : Happiness is a Danish word

Hygge : happiness is a Danish word

As far as I can remember, happiness has always been a source of wonder for me. Last year, a new concept came to the awareness of the general public, the Danish principles of happiness called Hygge. I am a bit late to the party, but I have been thoroughly seduced by this concept and today I’d like to share with you the basic principles of this art de vivre. Hygge has no direct translation Hygge, pronounced hoo-gah, is a complex concept coming from Denmark. Hard to describe in a few words, it doesn’t have a direct translation in any other language. It describes a feeling of well-being that you can experience in a variety of situations. A few elements can contribute to this well-being and I will try to help describe the concept by sharing these elements. The Basics of Hygge 1. Soft Lighting The Danes are the largest consumers of candles in Europe. They would say that the soft glow of a lighted candle can bring Hygge to any situation. For a hyggleligt ambiance, choose diffused lights similar to the dawn […]

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How to craft your ideal week

I used to get bogged down by the trivial stuff. There’s only so much you can do in a week, and it was easy to put my efforts on the small stuff and forget the big projects that would really make a difference. I’d spend my days in my email inbox and no big project would move forward. Then I remembered what Stephen Covey used to say : “Put in the big rocks first.” I needed to change the way I approached my weeks and make time for what was most important. I needed to craft my ideal week. I first got introduced to the idea of an ideal week when I read Living Forward by Michael Hyatt and Dan Harkavy. To make sure that our grandest goals get achieved, Hyatt suggested that we designed our ideal week to carve out the time for what matters most. When I created my life plan, I drafted an outline of my ideal week and never looked back. Like a budget for your time The idea of the ideal week is similar to […]

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Top 10 books of 2017 – Part 2

I consider myself a true bookworm, a library rat as we say in French. But this past year, I’ve surpassed all my reading records by reading more than 90 books! I’ve selected my top 20 books of the year in this two-part series, and here’s the final 10 books I’ve appreciated most in 2017. The Four Tendencies I’ve been waiting for the release of this book for the most part of 2017. The author, Gretchen Rubin, is part of my team of virtual mentors, and I’ve been reading everything she publishes. It is no surprise that she appears twice in this top 10! The Four Tendencies is a personality framework she has come up with that help us better understand why we can or can’t accomplish certain goals we set for ourselves, and how to harness our personalities to achieve them. I’ve written a review when the book launched.   Better Than Before Better than Before is the previous book published by Gretchen Rubin. It is all about the strategies we can implement to set healthy habits and to break those […]

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How to live a Level 10 Life

How to live a level 10 life

If I gave you a choice today, would you rather be living an amazing, awesome life you love? Or would you stick with what you’ve got? According to Hal Elrod, author of The Miracle Morning, if given a choice, we would all want to be living a Level 10 life, fully satisfied in every area of our lives. “If we’re measuring our levels of success/satisfaction in any area of our lives, we all want to be living our best lives at a ‘Level 10’ in each area. Creating your ‘Level 10 Life’ begins with creating an honest assessment of where you are.” Luckily, there’s a few ways to achieve your own level 10 lives. And it starts with a simple assessment. The Level 10 life assessment This assessment has also been called the Wheel of life assessment in many circles. It consists of writing down on a piece of paper 5 to 10 areas of your life that are particularly important to you and rating your level of satisfaction in every area on a scale of 1 to 10. Life […]

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Productivity, depression, and the challenge of being an entrepreneur

When you write a happiness and productivity blog, people expect you to be glowing, sparkling, checking everything off your to do list daily. And when I am at my best, I’d say I fit the bill quite perfectly. But on days like today, I cannot get anything done, and there’s not much I can do about it. I’ve suffered from depression since I am a teenager. At 15, my first major depression hit hard, I had to take meds and some time off from school. I even had to change schools. The doctors said that my chances of suffering from depression again in life were very high. With the help of antidepressants and therapy, I gradually started feeling better and, by the end of high school, depression was only a distant memory. Later in my 20s, depression crept back in, it came and went. I tried different meds, with astonishing side effects, weight gain, acne, all sorts of weird things, like blurry vision or falling asleep at 8 at night. Then I had a few years of solace, where my […]

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7 Reasons Why You Need a coach

7 reasons why you need a coach

In this day and age, life is so fast paced that we need an edge to keep ahead of the flow. If we truly want to be successful in our career and in our relationships, trying to wing it just doesn’t cut it anymore. We’re bombarded by information, opportunities and new technologies and deciding what’s right for us can quickly become overwhelming. My readers often tell me that they’re having a hard time deciding what to focus on and narrowing their priorities. These are all reasons why you need a coach. Coaching is one of the best ways to cut the clutter in your life, define your priorities and find happiness and fulfillment. Keep reading to learn the 7 reasons why you need a coach. 1. A coach helps you define your goals and your priorities One of the biggest challenge my readers face is to decide what to dedicate their time to. Time is the most precious resource we have and the most limited. We all get 168 hours a week and, if we’re spending it on stuff that’s […]

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Review : The Four Tendencies

The Four tendencies book review

Gretchen Rubin is one of the most popular author writing about happiness and human nature. Her many bestsellers such as The Happiness Project and Better Than Before have influenced me greatly over the years. In Better Than Before, she laid out a personality called The Four Tendencies and it spread like wildfire. On her podcast, Happier with Gretchen Rubin, each week listeners are asking questions about their tendencies and how they can make their lives better by harnessing the strengths of their tendency. It was no surprise that Rubin’s new book would be a deep dive into the Four Tendencies framework. And her book delivered. Within the first week of its launch, the book has made the Bestseller list of the New York Times as well as other acclaimed bestsellers lists. I preordered the book, eager to dive into the framework in more details. I devoured it in record time and couldn’t wait to share it with you guys. The Four Tendencies Framework The Four Tendencies is a personality framework which sorts people into 4 categories, or tendencies. Our tendency […]

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Decluttering brings happiness… but not always!

Decluttering brings happiness

Not only am I a crazy book nerd, but I’m also an organization maniac. Researching new ways to make my rooms more streamlined and effective is one of my favorite pastimes. Weird, I know. But you won’t be suprised to hear that when Marie Kondo’s book, The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up, came out, I was all over it. And to the surprise and despair of my fiancé, I started decluttering the house top to bottom, going completely nuts! *N.B.: This is NOT an article about the KonMari Method* Gretchen Rubin has a saying that I particularly love : “Outer order brings inner calm.” Well to me, that is totally true. A tidy house makes me feel at home. A tidy office triggers my inner hustler. In fact, I am unable to work in a messy environment. Just can’t. Nothing makes me feel inner peace like the sight of a well organized bookshelf or drawer. It makes me feel happy. So I went through the KonMari decluttering system with much enthusiasm. The concept is simple, you take every item in […]

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